weaktwos

It appears someone, who I shall call Ayn Gree, understandably is obviously distraught, made a comment in my journal featuring a link to their own journal maligning and making several accusations about a person who is on my friends list, who I shall call, Dee S. Functional .

While I'm deeply sorry about people suffering, I did not appreciate Ayn mining Dee's friends list to fold us all into the drama.

First of all, this is family anger. It should stay within the family and all legal and counselling personnel. And whatever Dee has done to incur the wrath of her family, never in my recollection of her journal has she itemized a list of what was wrong with her children. And as such, I don't admire any one of her children pulling such an immature prank.

I can't say that I have a cherry relationship with my parents. I have my share of anger. Hell, I don't even talk to my father. He was the infidel in my situation. I cut him out of my life. It wasn't so much that I cut him out of my life because of the way he treated my mother, though that was far from impressive. But he also was a lousy parent to me. He played games with both his children. I didn't want to play anymore. I haven't played for 16 years.

The old vaudevillian joke applies:
"Doctor, it hurts when I do this."
"Well, don't do that!"

If a parent has caused one so much pain, you don't need to stick around for it. If you accuse a parent of being an adulterer many times, that is not the child's problem, it is the problem of the spouse being cheated on. Take it from me, spending time getting wrapped up in your parents' drama is a waste of your life. If your father is in any way encouraging you to behave in such a publicly low-class fashion against your mother, chances are extremely high that he is no better than how you perceive your mother. There is a reason they have been together this long, and it's not healthy reasons for either of them.

You are better off spending your time identifying the qualities that are most destructive in your parents, and make sure you don't adopt them yourself, because you'll be finding mates much like your parents.

People are multi-faceted. They will always, whether intentional or not, put different faces/demeanors to different people. Sometimes people are strong and generous other times they are weak and vindictive. Other people will not always give you the treatment you deserve. All you can control is how you behave and how you treat others.

I hope Ayn and Dee and the rest of their family can work things out. I hope Ayn realizes that she will be more like her mother than she cares to admit at this point. Except Ayn is a Virgo. That ads a hypercritical twist to the mix.

So, good luck, kids! And when you fight, may you fight fairly.