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[weaktwos]

I'm having some leftover pork loin roast for lunch with a veggie chaser. Num. That pork loin turned out really tender.

Work is sorta busy, but quite reasonable.

I need to order transcenders for the server + exam.

I've been thinking of personal responsibility, lately.

I. Flakers.
I've always harbored a deep dislike for serial flakers. These people are usually more self-absorbed than the average bear. They have no sense of time management, and pass the savings onto those of us who think it is important to be where we say we're going to be. What's the point in saying you want to go somewhere, or be there when you won't? Why isn't it important to some of you folks out there to have your words and deeds match as closely as they can. And why the hell are you comfortable with the fact that you can't manage your time? Your time is something you have control over 95% of the time, assuming you don't have children. When you have kids, that's different. The percentage goes down a bit there.

II. Depression
I know there are certain forms of Clinical Depression that you cannot control due to brain chemistry. I know medication poses some various issues. But just what if you really are a lazy, insecure bastard? I mean, if you do not love yourself for who you are, if you feel you have too many flaws, how will medication alter that perception? Especially when you make such claims while you are medicated?

Yes, some of us are given more challenges than others in life. It rests upon each of us individually to rise to our particular challenges. We each have our own unique quest in life to overcome the bullshit and the crutches we have inherited. If you can't change it or use it to your benefit, accept it. If you can change it, but you are not, acknowledge it, and what the hell are you waiting for?

Comments

[weaktwos.livejournal.com]

I'm inclined to agree. Some folks are taking an easy way out.

[sashanatasha.livejournal.com]

Not much to add to this, but yes: Flakers infuriate me. I've been burned far too many times by these types of people. Personally, I have such a fear of not following through with what I promise that I rarely commit to anything. Much better to be overly cautious than a flake!

As for depression, I think many people just enjoy being professional victims. I'm an absurdy compassionate person and a total bleeding heart, but I cannot stand anyone trying to get sympathy who doesn't "deserve" it.

Yeah, I realize the issue of who actually "deserves" it can get kinda murky!

[sashanatasha.livejournal.com]

Oh! I certainly do NOT want to suggest that anyone and everyone suffering from depression is just putting on a show. I wrote this in haste and was ranting about a specific *type* of depression suffererer/drama lover.

[teeny-charib.livejournal.com]

Oh, man. I know exactly what you mean. I have a certain friend who is quote 'depressed'. It's such a show that I can't stand it! And I think it is the people like that that cause some people who may have serious problems not to get the help that they need.

Hmm...

[cotharyus.livejournal.com]

..flakes suck. I know a professional flake.

Depression is much more complicated. Technically I'm at high risk for depression. Mostly because of past medication (stuff that was perscribed to me as a kid, not something I elected to take) I'm supposedly prone to mood swings and have a tendancy to "just give up" when I encounter a serious problem. I have been advised that there are medications I could take, but I wonder if treating problems due to past medications isn't just a Bad Idea. Anyhow, while very close friends (and parts of my family - meaning my wife, and my son when he's old enough to figure it) have seen these things, but most of the people that I meet seem to think I'm a pretty happy, easy going guy. Thats just the image I like to project, and just the person I like to be. So I try to get over my problems on my own - that is, by talking to people or whatevr - anything but medication. Depressed? Been there, done that, got the tee shirt, and still wear it sometimes. But don't think I'm making light of depression. It is legitimately a serious problem for some people, but I do think a lot of people you see running around on seven different anti-depressants just want to be popping happy pills. They'd be better off going out and smoking a joint in my opinion, but that's probly not a socially acceptable option, now is it?

Re: Hmm...

[weaktwos.livejournal.com]

Well it certainly is a serious problem. But in your case, you're making a conscious choice to deal with it on your own, and it sounds like it's working. I think people naturally have mood swings, anyway, and you cannot expect to be chipper all the time. Barring the seriously manic depressed folks who can fry their brains because of not taking medication, I think some folks just need to take the reigns and focus on the problems instead of the happy pills.

Re: Hmm...

[cotharyus.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I also think some people take the wrong approach to this. They isolate themselves which just makes it worse. Twice I got well past halfway to killing myself in my own mind, and both times was during the two periods of greatest isolation. Your friends are the best help you can get. And aside from buying them a beer or two, it doesn't cost anything. It's free compared to a pshrink.

[denimdoll.livejournal.com]

I suffer from depression. I suspect it's genetic, as I know my mother had an undiagnosed case of depression for most of my life. For years, I resisted medication and managed with psychotherapy. Therapy helped a great deal, but the depression was still there. Sure, I had lots of great days, but when I had a bad day, it was a really, REALLY bad day. The difference between my highs and lows was larger than it should have been. So I finally went on meds for it and I believe they have helped. Sure, I still have my bad days, but they aren't AS bad as they used to be. And I don't think I use the fact that I suffer from depression as a crutch or excuse.

I do agree with you though - many folks do use depression as an excuse for a whole range of behaviors.